If you have ever been in
a situation where you wanted to get ahead in your life and struggled to do so,
then you probably realized an important thing: it’s not easy to keep your motivation up, all the time.
You
need some kind of boostto keep going.
Maybe
you’ve felt that if only you had the right people to support you on your
journey, things would be different. With the right friends who believe in you,
maybe you would be 3, or even 10 times more motivated to reach the success you
want.
But,
in the age we live in, people are hammered with a thousand ads a day. They are
constantly distracted by their Smartphone’s. This makes them spend less and
less time truly listening and understanding others.
This
is so common that we feel rarely really understood
by people.
We
all feel that need for friends that listen, understand, feel what we feel, and
support us.
Here
are 5 Rules to follow to get the right friends in your life
1. Never Doubt
Your Social Nature
It’s
important to be able to depend on yourself. But it’s absolutely crucial for
your success and happiness to have absolutely no doubt that you NEED more
friends in your life.
Some
people have trouble just assuming that. Sometimes because they’re too proud to
admit it, sometimes because they don’t know the importance of having more
friends.
The
right friends get you to have more of what you want every day:
support with your goals, fun time, better vacations, better trips, better get-togethers, more
laughter, more relationships, better birthday parties, better holidays, more
impact in life, etc.
Ironically,
the people who have lots of friends are the first to admit that they need
friends.
2. If You Have
Problems With Socializing, Learn To Overcome Them
If
you happen to have feelings of loneliness, shyness, or social anxiety, you need to learn more about them.
When you know how they work, you’re ready to stop them from ruining your life.
For
example, loneliness makes you feel unsafe around people. Most people also
confuse it with depression. It’s tricky. If you fall in what I call The
Loneliness Trap, chances are, you’ll start to do things that get you even
further in loneliness. And that’s exactly the opposite of what you want.
The
fastest way to deal with loneliness is to do some charity, reach out to old
friends or relatives that can understand you. The key is to avoid
staying home and
making your problem worse.
3. Learn To Keep
a Conversation Going
This
is important because it allows you to turn strangers into actual good friends.
It’s
a key social skill. And it’s about creating better and more fun conversations
with people. It’s a quality that everyone looks for in a friend: the ability to
have a great
conversation.
A
quick tip to keep a conversation going is to remember stories that you hear,
whether they’re yours or not. Every time you hear an interesting story from
someone else’s life, from TV, movies, documentaries, radio, or books, remember
it. And then, mention it in conversations with people, if it’s related to the
subject that you’re talking about.
Learn
more here about how to keep a conversation going.
4. Make The Right
Friends
In
order to get the friends you want, the ones who will make your life better, and
make you happier, there are a couple of things you need to pay attention to.
Look
for opportunities that already exist in your life, to meet new people. Where do
you go everyday? Where do you have coffee? Where do you get your lunch break?
Do you have a hobby? Are you interested in a particular subject? Do you want to
learn a sport or a dance style?
The
answers to these questions are actually opportunities for you to meet new people. When you
meet these people, talk to them, and get their contact information. Keep in
touch and meet them later.
5. Build a Social
Circle Of People That Love You
This
is the ultimate situation. Where you have many friends that believe in you and
love you. the key to do this is to make friends that can get along, and
introduce them to each other.
When
you introduce the people in your life to each other, you create a group of
friends. And that is the EASIEST way to have a great social life.
Because
within a group, people are much more motivated to
create or participate in awesome plans to have fun and rejuvenate.
It
makes the difference between having hundreds of friends that DON’T call you and
having friends that call you regularly to hang out.
That.
Is.
Key.
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