In my entire life I can honestly say that I have only met a
handful of people who I consider to be genuinely happy. These people on
the outside seem astonishingly ordinary, but once you get to know them
intimately you really begin to feel that these people have found the secret to
happiness.
Now for me personally whenever I see an area where I can
improve I like to jump to it. So in this case I had to find out what was
the root to these peoples happiness.
Fortunately I did.
And that’s what I hope to share with you through this article.
Through thorough research and bit of experimentation I have boiled it down to 5
secrets which happiness derives from
5 Secrets to
Happiness:
1. Have a Meaning
or Purpose
Research shows that happy people live for a purpose and
have meaning to their lives - they want to reach a certain goal- while unhappy
people seem lost and muddled. They also have a passion for what they do and
enjoy it.
As Aristotle said:
Man is a goal seeking
animal. His life only has meaning if he is reaching out and striving for his
goals.
So as long as a person is reaching for the next objective he
or she will be happy. But if the person isn’t and is at a stationary phase he
or she will be unhappy.
2. Build and
Cherish Relationships
Thousands of candles
can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be
shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. -Buddha
Happiness when shared among people only becomes stronger.
This is why happy people maintain a strong network of friends
and relatives. This network allows their happiness to resonate and grow
infinitely. While for unhappy people their isolation represses their happiness
and allows it to only grow to a certain point.
3. Control Your
Thoughts
Happy people have a strong control over their
thoughts and mind. They are able to look at bright side, and filter out
negative thoughts. This gives them a considerable edge over unhappy
people who think negative and look at the glass half empty.
As Abraham Lincoln said:
Most people are about
as happy as they make up their minds to be.
4. Accept What
You Have
Happy people are content with what they have and only want for
what they know they can get. This sense of reality in controlled doses allows
these people to feel satisfied and fulfilled. While in reverse unhappy people
never seem to have what they want, and they live in a constant torment of wants
and needs.
As Democritus
Happiness resides not
in possessions and not in gold, the feeling of happiness dwells in the soul.
5. Be Thankful
Happiness will never
come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.
The happiest people who I have ever met have all also been the most
thankful. By being grateful one evokes a certain feeling of
contentment and calm. This feeling eventually evolves into true, genuine
happiness.
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